Love Vs Obsession.

 

These days I am going out of my comfort zone and discussing topics that I usually do not really discuss about. Last time it was "Hustle culture", and this time it is "Love Vs Obsession". Of course, I have discussed about "Self Love" in many of my past blogs. But this time I want to discuss about love that we give to others.  Love in all senses is confusing and hard, it may be love to the self or the love for others.  It is actually funny how something beautiful as love, can be so hard but something as hate so easy. The language of hate is same, but language of love so different.  

But I want to focus my attention on one form of love. The romantic form of love. This is form of love that individuals share when they feel some form of tinges in their hearts for the other person. It is a very special kind of love, one of the more celebrated forms of love. This love can be between people of the same gender or different gender, this depends on the person's interest in people. 

This form of love is really close to heart, everyone wants to experience this form of love. Having this form of love is a bit of brag for many and of course it should be. Everyone, in normal conditions, gets to experience the love of parents, siblings, grandparents and friends but along with that experiencing a love from some one else. A kind of love that is different from all the other kinds of love is ,precious. 

But I think many individuals of my generation have really misunderstood the difference between love and obsession.  Love is something that should make you stronger, better and healthier in all aspects. Love should not be something that breaks you, or makes you overthink your complete existence. Love should be peaceful and not chaotic and all over the place.

When I hear a lot my acquaintances discussing their romantic relationships, I do see familiar patterns saddening familiar patterns.  I think most of the time people are not in love but instead are obsessed with not even the person, but the idea of that form of relationship. Romantic love is an overrated concept in media. You do not believe me, then right now open Netflix or anywhere else you watch your movies. You open  the trending page and see the movies over there. You won't see movies about science or movies about puppies there. Instead it is the "Romantic movies" on the top list.But these movies aren't about love, they are about lust and obsession.  The movies are completely filled with all these fake scenarios which are not healthy in any sense. 5

This may be a controversial comment but I do not think sex is something that should be shamed. I know many people may now judge me but hear me out. Sexual desires are part of human biology, it isn't something abnormal.  But I do believe that these desires should be expressed in a proper manner, and in a proper age limit and with consent. But I will shame obsession. Any form of obsession, it may be with a thing or a person, it is wrong. Obsession drives people mad. Obsession cannot benefit anyone. You do not grow with obsession, you remain stagnant. 

In my honest opinion, I think media has really changed the way see many things, especially love. I think media has to be more responsible about how it portrays subjects like love, especially to it's younger audience. It should portray romantic relationships as the beautiful things they are, instead of portraying love as a very lustful and obsessive behaviour. 

Thank You😘

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