Let It Go.
Last blog of the year. This year I have been more or less consistent with my work and I am super proud of it. Next year, I will try to be even more consistent with my blog. The year 2022 otherwise, has been a less eventful year. I did do a lot of things but they felt very insignificant to me for some reason or rather this year felt like I was just existing and life was passing by. It felt as if I was a spectator and life was like a cricket match, I was there, I did see everything, I did react to the happenings in the match but I wasn't in it. I guess I will stop discussing my year for now. I will begin to discuss my actual topic.
Everyone has this experiences, people, or even memories that are too negative to deal with and sometimes they do come up in our mind often. In psychological terms, this would be called as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder{PTSD}. A condition in which we are repeatedly tormented by thoughts of something traumatic. It is honestly the worst case scenario as getting reminded of something that we hate is the worst thing to ever happen. The worst part of having a bad experience,or having a bad person in our life is not the scenario that happens but the flashbacks that you keep getting of the experience or the person.
I want to share an experience that kinda showed me a way to deal with such a scenario. One day I was sitting in a park, near my house with a childhood friend. We both were discussing traumatic incidents in our life, our discussion got disturbed by the barking of a dog nearby. We both looked at the dog and that is when we realized that there was a pet dog barking at the stray dog. This incident may seem so insignificant but what really stood out to me, was the stray dog did not react to the barking of the pet dog. It walked by , without any reaction. This incident reminds of an saying that I heard often as a child, an elephant will not react to the barking of a dog.
The important takeaway here is, we will have to the learn to make peace with a traumatic situation , or with trauma caused by people to us. There are always negative people, negative experiences that are always going to bark at us, instead of barking back at them, we should learn to move on in our lives, peaceful. I know this sounds so easy while we are reading it, but while doing it, it will be one of the most hardest things to do. But even if the process is slow and may take years, we need to always make progress to get closure. Closure is something that we can give to ourselves, not something that someone else can, even if we need closure for the trauma caused by someone else, the only person who can give us closure is ourselves.
Thank You♡
-MJM.
